Friday, January 4, 2013

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Seducing a man doesn't necessarily mean stealing him from someone else, or convincing him to do something he shouldn't be doing. It can simply mean sealing a guy's desire for you, and can be a good way to keep a man (not just get one).

  1. Make him feel appreciated. In studies about why men cheat on their wives, it was found that the reason isn't sex or attraction; it's usually that they feel emotionally disconnected from their wives because they feel unappreciated, and they're drawn to other women who make them feel appreciated.

    Let him help you. You don't have to play the damsel in distress, but you don't have to go out of your way to prove you can do everything yourself, either. Most guys these days already know that you're a perfectly capable human being. So, ask him for his advice on something. Ask him to teach you about one of his interests. Ask him to do something for you that's easier for him to do that for you to do. Show him that you value his knowledge, talents, and willingness to help.
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    Be yourself. No, really. Men are thought to instinctively crave variety. By developing a strong sense of self, with your own distinct personality and flair, you're appealing to his desire for variety because you're so different.
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    Flirt. Be playful.

Monday, July 9, 2012

Are you looking for a bad guy?


Tips

  • Keep in mind that appearance is an almost negligible aspect of seduction. Many of history's seductresses were beautiful, but many men have strayed from their relationships to be with a woman who isn't considered by most to be as attractive as their partner.
  • Get alone together. If you can, make sure as few people as possible see you together because that will look a little fishy.
  • Most of the advice in the following column is not for making a guy fall in love with you, it's for making a guy fall in lust with you.
  • Wear a light attractive scent. This means layering scents. Bathe in scented bath oils first. Then apply a light powder in the same scent. Finally spray the same scented perfume in front of you and walk into the mist. Do this about 45 minutes before you see him. If you overpower him with your scent, instead of wanting to edge a bit closer he will be running for the nearest exit.
KNOW THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN FLIRTATION AND SEDUCTION 
Flirtation is simply about making the other party feel like a million dollars: it’s a way of making someone feel so good that they are attracted to you and want to be around you. 
Seduction is taking flirtation to a level where you are setting out to achieve a conscious goal - that can be in a sexual sense, or simply about achieving a status where you enter into a relationship. 
Seduction can also be used in the workplace to get the results required in negotiations. 
Once you realise the power of seduction, you can apply it to all areas of your life: for example, getting a BT technician to be extra dedicated when sorting out your phone. 
KNOW WHO YOU ARE BEFORE TRYING TO SEDUCE SOMEONE 
Until you know who you are and are comfortable with that, it’s difficult to set about seducing someone with any conviction.
It’s often said that confidence is the sexiest attribute one can possess, and it’s true that people are naturally drawn to those who are comfortable in their own skin. 
Make sure you’re happy with what you are wearing, you like your hair and make-up, and you’re feeling calm and happy. It’s much easier to seduce a man when you are at ease with yourself and have a sense of your own personality.


MAKE THEM FEEL SPECIAL
Giving someone attention is the ultimate seduction technique. It can be quite subtle, but it’s all about creating an intimacy to make that man feel special. 
If it’s someone you don’t know, begin with eye contact, then start a conversation and adapt your body language. 
If it’s someone you’re in a relationship with and want to add some seductive sparkle, then start with the same approach: pretend you are getting to know them for the first time.
Try to learn new things about that person, however long you’ve been together. 
Don’t be overbearing: have a happy, relaxed attitude that isn’t needy. 
Making a man feel like there’s nothing else more interesting in the world than him is a key factor in the art of seduction. 
GROOMING IS ESSENTIAL 
Subtle, understated make-up is important: so don’t go overboard. Men don’t like the mask effect of lots of make-up; they like to know what’s underneath. 
Put simply: make-up is messy and gets in the way, and a lot of men really don’t like it. 
Better to spend your time treating your hair with an intense conditioning mask so it’s soft and shiny, and applying a deliciously soft lotion or oil on to your skin so it’s smooth and silky to the touch. 
Long talons are a turn-off, too: neat, tidy nails without any rough edges are much more appealing. Choose your fragrance carefully. You want to smell clean, but not like you are wearing somebody else’s scent. Perfume simply masks who you really are: men are genetically programmed to love the natural scent of a woman’s skin — even if we aren’t aware it exists.


WEAR THE RIGHT CLOTHES AND SHOES 
Most women have an outfit that makes them feel sexy: I have an Alexander McQueen dress that is my ‘result dress’. It’s a sure bet, because it dresses my contours. 
Wear the right underwear, too. You need to show off your bottom or your bust and know what your assets are: men like the obvious elements of a woman’s body. There is also a reason stilettos have become a cliche, they work. 
Don’t stop making an effort to wear seductive clothing just because you’ve been in a relationship for a while: going to the trouble of wearing your man’s favourite outfit is a real turn-on. Take him by surprise when he gets home from work one evening.=
GIVE THE AIR OF SEXUAL POSSIBILITY
Men don’t like to work that hard: they like to feel there is the possibility of physicality. If you’re in a long-term relationship and your idea of romance is a candlelit supper, make that a more appealing prospect for your man by alluding to the delicious dish - you - that might be served for afters. 
If you are looking to seduce a new partner, demonstrate some kind of awareness of the possibility of physical intimacy without being overtly sexual or threatening. 
Men are simple, not stupid. Seduction is about a simple fulfilment for them, but they also like to feel they are the masters of seduction. Keep an air of mystery to your seduction: keep it light, look like you’re a fun option. If they don’t respond to you as the fun person, they’ll run a mile when you mention all your neuroses. 
DON’T APPEAR DESPERATE 
You mustn’t chase hard: nothing is more off-putting than desperation. Make yourself attractive by being as gorgeous as you can in your own skin. Seducing a man is about making him want to chase you. 
The women who find it hard to seduce a man come with a long, demanding list of requirements: the ones who seduce with ease are the ones who come with an air of mystery.

10 Ways to Seduce Your Man in Seconds
Valentine’s Day may be the holiday of love, lingerie and gettin’ it on, but why wait till then? If you’re in the mood for some red-hot action right now, get the message across instantly with tips from Claire Cavanah and Rachel Venning, co-founders of the sex toy store Babeland and authors of Moregasm: Babeland’s Guide to Mind-Blowing Sex.


Give him a sneak peek.

Lingerie? A schoolgirl outfit? Sure, it’s been done, but there’s a reason: It works. “Ask him to shop for a fantasy item he wants you to wear,” suggests Cavanah. Then, to really knock his socks off, “Surprise him by having it on when he least expects it.” Pull up your skirt a few inches to reveal a garter and stockings while you’re sitting together at a restaurant. Pack that French-maid outfit with you when you stop by to help him “clean up” after his big party. He’ll take notice. And action.



Write dirty.

If you simply can’t bring yourself to try talking dirty, let your fingers do the talking instead. “Write a suggestive note on the steam on the mirror after your shower,” says Venning. “The fact that it’s there for a only moment and then gone will make the idea all the more tantalizing.”



Let your eye wander.

“Flirt with another man in front of him,” says Cavanah. “Better yet, flirt with another woman.” Seeing you act sexual—not to mention seeing others respond favorably to you—will pique his interest and stimulate his natural instinct to have you all to himself. Just be sure to keep the flirting within reason, like a waiter or host at a restaurant—not your ex-boyfriend at a party!



Play the part of the beautiful stranger.

Remember that gorgeous woman he stared at on the street or the actress in that movie he couldn’t stop talking about? Don’t be jealous—be inspired! Use her as inspiration for a makeover and show up to your guy’s house like you’re that same intriguing, tempting stranger, suggests Cavanah. Act confident and playful and, most important, “dress in a way that you normally don’t,” she adds. Translation: Swap your skinny jeans for something that shows a little leg, wear some new makeup shades, take down your ponytail and reintroduce him to your favorite high heels.



Tell him what you want—now.

One of the best ways to turn a man on is the simplest: “Tell him how good he is,” says Cavanah. Think of something he excels at between the sheets, and as you lean in to kiss him, whisper, “I love the way you _____ my ______.” Chances are, he won’t wait long to prove you right.


Play the naughty version of “I Never.”

“There’s nothing like a conversation about your sexual ‘bucket lists’ to turn his mind to sex,” suggests Venning. “You can start with “I’ve always wanted to…” or “I’ve never…” As long as you finish the conversation in the bedroom, consider it a success.



Pre-party with yourself.

“If you get turned on (or even orgasm) before your date, the signs of arousal, like full lips, pink cheeks and the pheromones women emit when turned on will all work on him in primal ways,” says Venning. So go ahead and spend some “me time” before you see him. Oh, and don’t be afraid to tell him all about it.

Give him the remote.

You know men love to control the TV remote, so why not mix it up and “slip him the wireless remote that controls the vibrating panties you’re wearing,” suggests Cavanah. If you’re on the timid side, let him play around with it at home. If you’re on the wild side, let him turn you on from across a crowded room at a party or during dinner at a restaurant.

Come on strong.

If your man doesn’t initiate often, take charge and see if he enjoys your being dominant. Next time he’s sitting on the couch, walk over to him and place your palms against his shoulders as you straddle him, then lean in, kiss his neck and tell him what you want to do to him, says Venning.


Give him a toy.

If your guy loves when you break out your vibrator, why not get him a toy of his own? After all, “Nothing says I want to have sex with you like a sex toy!” says Venning. A simple vibrating ring is always a safe bet and one that’ll feel good for both of you. Explain to him how it works, and watch his eyes light up.


How to Seduce a Man Who’s Not Yours

Do you want to make him want you? Whether it’s to make him like you or lust for you, here’s your guide on how to seduce a man who isn’t your man yet.

Seducing a man is an art, and one that’s thoroughly enjoyable.
Just watching a man feel flustered and awkward because of the sexual tension you’ve created is a rush that few things can give a girl.
A few of these tips may be sneaky and scheming, but hey, we’re not playing dirty.
We’re only using the advantage of being a woman!
Find out how to seduce a man who’s not your own man, and make him sweat with desire.
But what next, do you want him to fall in love with you or are you happy with him trailing you like a lost pup?
Either ways, you’ll have a great time and he’ll love you for letting him have a great time.
Everyone’s happy and the world is a better place!
How to seduce a man
If you want to understand how to seduce a man, especially if he’s not your own boyfriend, use these ten tips to do just that.
It’s subtle, devilishly innocent and he can never ever blame you for seducing him.
After all, by using these steps on seducing a man, you’ll make him believe that he’s actually the one who desires you.
#1 Work your eye contact
Now you don’t want him to think you’re attracted to him, so don’t overdo the little staring game. Look, but always look away just as he looks at you. By doing that, he’ll never be sure if you’re even staring at him. And yet, he’d start to get more and more curious about you.
#2 Let him see your best side
Do you think you’re sexy? No? Then start feeling sexy, dammit! 
If you want to become a wily seductress, you need to feel like one. And when you do, you’ll be able to perfect this move and put it to maximum use. Men love boobs and butt. You know that right?
Look your best when you’re around the guy you want to seduce. Let him admire your curves and those toned sexy legs of yours. When he falls in love with your body, he’s definitely on his way to getting seduced by you.
#3 A little peek-a-boo
The fascinating thing about being a woman is that you can do something outrageous like wearing extremely short skirts and plunging necklines and still blame a man for being a pervert. Of course, now we women aren’t wearing these sexy outfits to please everyone, are we? 
We’re just wearing these cute outfits for the guys we want to seduce. So all the other perverts can just look away for all we care. 
If you want to seduce a man, never bare everything or wear skimpy clothes. It draws the wrong kind of attention. Instead, wear something that gives you an opportunity to give him a little peek now and then. If he’s standing around you, lean forward to pick a piece of paper or your bag. A guy’s eyes are pretty quick when it comes to sneaky boob grazes. Giving a guy the chance to take a sneak peek now and then would only make him want to see them more, and hopefully without any clothes on. 
Now taking the clothes off for him is your decision, but this move will definitely seduce him and make him want more.
#4 Smile for him
Men are automatically drawn towards women who seem happier and more fun to be with. A smiling, flirty woman is far more approachable than a surly, saggy woman. When you’re having a conversation with him, smile often. It’ll make you seem good natured and happy, which will draw him to you. But don’t overdo the smiling by making it obvious that you’ve got a thing for him. You’re trying to seduce him, not let him know you like him! 
#5 Flirt with him
If you’ve got these first few steps down to the tee, the guy you’re seducing would already be attracted to you, sexually or otherwise. Now it’s time to warm him up and let him know that you’re up for a bit of safe flirting now and then. When you’re having a conversation with him, start flirting with him and make him want to continue the conversation with you. If his eyes are ready to pop out in excitement or if he’s got bits of drool, you’re doing a great job at this, aren’t you, you seductress? 
#6 Lingering unexpected touches
When you’re having a conversation with him at lunch, place your fingers over his palm while emphasizing a point or hold him by his hand as you’re crossing the street. If you’re sitting next to him, allow your feet to touch his feet and pretend like you didn’t notice. Create circumstances to let him touch you, and he’ll want more. 
#7 Don’t throw yourself at him
If you want to know how to seduce a guy, never ever throw yourself at him or let him know that you think he’s hot stuff. By letting a guy know that you’re already interested in him, he wouldn’t feel excited by any of your antics. He’ll just assume you’re trying really hard to get his attention. And you don’t want that.
When you let a guy know you like him, it’ll make him start the game of playing hard to get with you. Instead of seducing a guy, you’ll end up looking trashy and clingy. Always make it look like he’s the one pursuing you, even if you’re laying a seduction trail for him with each step you take.
#8 Ignore him now and then
Every once in a while, when you feel like things are going too smooth between the two of you, stop giving him a lot of attention and conversation time. A guy will always take things easy when he feels like he’s having a great time with a girl. So at least at the beginning, don’t ever let him feel like he’s able to make an impression on you. Ignore him now and then, or just play hard to get with him. It’ll shake up his insecurities all over again, and make him woo you harder. 
#9 Take him to the dance floor
Guys can never resist a girl’s curves. Take those sexy curves and move them on a dance floor, and he’ll be floored by you.
If you can work your way around getting this guy to take you out clubbing, then you’re definitely on cloud nine of seducing a man. Show off your skills on the dance floor, and let him watch you. Dancing with each other is a great way to build the sexual chemistry and leave a few lasting memories with lingering touches.
#10 Create awkward situations
If you want to know how to seduce a man, get this right and you’d leave the guy you want to seduce with a heart full of love and a trouser that’s stretching on a hard on!
Squeeze into a crowded elevator with him and “unknowingly” let your butt graze against his leg. If he’s sitting down in a chair, come from behind him and reach across his table to get something when he’s not looking. He’ll involuntarily turn and his shoulders have nowhere to touch but your breasts. And that’s by accident, of course. And when you hug him, make sure he can feel your girly parts touch against him. Don’t make any of these moves obvious and he’ll think he’s the lucky one for getting to touch you in places he could only dream of. 
Give him the chance to touch you, and create awkward situations around him. His pants will get tighter, and he’ll do more than just fantasize about you.
So now that you know how to seduce a man who’s not yours, what are you going to do next, make him fall in love with you or use him as a sex buddy? It feels so good to have so many choices, doesn’t it?!


How to Seduce a Guy - Seduce Your Guy with a Text Message!

Using Texting To Seduce a Guy!...It's personal. It's individual and secretive. And the best part is you are able to send and receive it from anywhere anytime.
Although I do believe texting is a good way to seduce your guy, however you must know when to apply it. I don't feel texting is as effective for a couple who's just started dating. You should be familiar with the person and have toyed with them in the flesh or over the telephone first. By doing this you'll get an hint of what turns them on and what will turn them off. It also helps to keep the dreaded rejection from a guy who might not be interested in you.
If you're a bit timid about saying naughty things in person or even on the phone with your guy, talking dirty with text messages can assist you suppress that. By determining what it is you would like to say to your guy, you'll find it much easier and more comfortable with the texting. Likewise, by receiving a favorable reply to your flirting by text, it will make you feel easier flirting with your man over the phone and in person.
Here are some things that work well when trying to seduce a guy with text message:
>>> Be elusive...You don't have to be overtly intimate to be flirtatious. Occasionally when the content is too naughty it could be a turn off. Suggesting what could take place can be a lot more alluring then actually telling. Leave something for him to think about. Let him pass the day imagining about what's ready for him once he sees you. The words and phrases should have an ingredient of seduction and be clear to him.
>>> Observe what you text...Remember even the best of texter has accidentally sent text messages to the wrong person. So you should not put anything in a text that would embarrass you or him if a acquaintance, fellow worker or family member were to receive it. A lot of conversations are best left for telephone or face to face romancing unless it's something you're both at ease with, even if you don't care what people believe, he may. And you don't wish a flirty text to be the cause of a problem in your relationship.
>>> Be original...Since it's a text you have a lot of time to consider what you're going to send and how you will respond. You are able to make your texts into a love story which will lead up to the time when your both together. Building the seduction up throughout the day. As you get more originative and more at ease with seductive flirting and with what he desires, you can distinctly express what you desire while allowing for enough room for his imagination to have him waiting eagerly to get home
Have some playfulness with it. Keep in mind that seduction and flirting or just "tools". So make it as realist as you can... You'll feel at ease and he won't feel as if you're doing something that doesn't agree with your personality... And who knows maybe he'll flirt back or start sending you his own flirty messages.

How to Make a Man Be Attracted to You - 5 Tempting Ways to Become Seductive!

If it really is your 1st instance to try to become compelling and invoking to the opposite gender. Do not be too pressured out, it will ruin your probabilities to in truth obtain in that exceptional Man you like. As a result to make it easier for you, here are five beguiling ways to be seductive!
>>> Always be yourself...Be in a upright mood. Afterward, you will enjoy your day with less load and stress. It will set your temper and give off a fine aura for the people close to you. Moreover, you'll find your more comfortable...And that Man will be drawn to you if you have a very delighting aura.
>>> Fascinate him... Don't expose each insignificant aspect about yourself on your first date. Keep him wanting to be familiar with more about you for the next date. This should make him a bit more interested and inquisitive about you, that will keep your date exciting...And indisputably he'll need more of you.
>>> Try to be a little assertive...Assertiveness can be played to your advantage...It can wholly turn a chap on straight away off. Females can be entirely overwhelming when they start the 1st move on a guy....It undeniably thaws a guy's suspicion similar to ice cream on hot pie.
>>> Feel gorgeous and hot. Love yourself, that's the top secret. Get a little remake or dress in clothes that reveal off your greatest assets. Some of the times, it's all in the mind...What you feeling and believe in will in actual fact aid in giving you that encouraging aura that you will draw him frenziedly to you like a magnet.
>>> Take in the attention he's giving you...Center on him, he'll sense a lot more at ease around since he is aware that he has your mind. Or better still, love the way He's watching you. It does not indicate that you should turn into loud while you're with him...Just let him know you are having a excellent time being with him.
Owning the aptitude to make any Man be nonstop pulled in to you without doubt is a knack all of us Females would love to have. So enjoy flirting.. Attraction is hard to resist.